Opposing Thoughts

The dating widower… Man, so many layers of various emotions to work through. But, let me say, it is a strengthening, encouraging, sorrowful, and beautiful process all at the same time! I have followed a clear process over the last 6 months. The first 5 months were all about me…working through the throws of intense…

Focus, Man!

“When will I meet somebody?” “Will I remarry someday?” “Can somebody actually love me?” “Is love possible…again?” In one form or another, these questions seem to swirl in my mind. Thoughts flit from one area to another, often creating more anxiety and questions than what I started with. So, I take a step back, examine…

Love…Again?

Some, who have lost a spouse, realize quickly that they possess a deep desire to love another person intimately…again. Here is my experience with this concept, to date, and the areas of my life in which I am processing. First of all, the desire to remarry, find an intimate relationship, or date, is not an…

Fish Out of Water

These days, I am thinking about getting out and meeting others, especially those in the widow/widower community. This comes with a lot of trouble… In the first place, I am wrestling with the idea. I have written about this, the problem crops up in guilt. I need to move past that feeling and not allow…

Best Friend ‘Stuff’

Jana and I loved to go shopping. Not really buy anything, just walk, talk, look around, and enjoy being together. Whether it was just her and I, on a date night-type excursion, or with the kids, we always had a good time getting out. IKEA, Nebraska Furniture Mart, Target, and, of course, a Walmart stop…

The Anti-Grizzly Adams

Maybe a singles group would be beneficial. A bunch of people, close to my age, who experience life without a spouse – for whatever reason. There are plenty of these groups, some of which I have little to nothing in common with (Facebook seems to have a group for everything). Probably some kind of bible…

The “Up” Side to Grief

Moving on, getting over it, progressing, changing, getting better, feeling good, accepting, growth, new life… People package working through the grief process in a lot of different ways. Any way you slice it, it’s tough! I am not the same person that I was August 6th, the day before Jana died. And, I am not…